There are few conversations to have with your parents that are more difficult than telling them you’re unexpectedly pregnant. Telling them about a car accident or that you flunked Biology is one thing, but telling them you’re pregnant is another.
Don’t panic. We’ve got some thoughts that can help you start the conversation. Perhaps after they’ve accepted the news, you might be surprised at the help they’re willing to give.
If you need immediate help, please don’t hesitate to make an appointment. You don’t have to face this alone.
Strategies for Telling Your Parents You’re Pregnant
Telling your parents that you’re pregnant is probably a conversation you never thought you’d have to have. Here are the steps we suggest you take first:
1. Have You Verified Your Pregnancy?
There’s more information to know about your pregnancy than just a positive pregnancy test and a late period. Before you talk with your parents, you may want to verify some essential facts.
For instance, do you know exactly how far along you are in the pregnancy? This not only determines your due date but also helps confirm your options.
At the Pregnancy Resource Center, we recommend getting an ultrasound. An ultrasound detects if your pregnancy is developing like it should, how far along you are, and the pregnancy’s location.
Call us to determine if you qualify for a free, confidential limited obstetrical ultrasound.
2. Learn About Your Options
Before you talk with your parents, learn as much as possible about your options. Doing research beforehand lets them see you want to handle the situation calmly and maturely.
You can present your three options to them: have an abortion, make an adoption plan, or choose to parent. Before you say something to your parents, think about what you want to do.
No one, not even your parents, has the legal right to force you to choose one option over another. This is your decision. Although you want and need their support, you will be the one to make the final choice.
Once we’ve verified your pregnancy at the Pregnancy Resource Center, we can give you detailed information about each option.
3. Discussing Your Pregnancy With Your Parents
Wait until you have a private, relaxed time to talk with them. As we imagine you felt, your parents will be shocked to hear the news. Give them time to absorb what you’re saying.
You can start the conversation with one of these phrases:
- “I have something important to share and need your support.”
- “I have news that will probably upset you, but I want you to know.”
- “I’ve been struggling to tell you this, but I am pregnant.”
Try to communicate openly about how you’re feeling. Don’t respond to your parents’ initial reaction. It may not be how they ultimately feel. Let them know the steps you’ve already taken and the options you are considering.
If you are concerned you will get an angry response, be sure you have someone with you and consider talking in a public location. If your relationship is abusive, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline before sharing the news.
The Pregnancy Resource Center is Here for You
No matter how the conversation goes, you are not alone. We provide a safe, supportive space to discuss your options and feelings.
Our team can confirm your pregnancy, review your options, and discuss talking to your parents. If you cannot come to our facility, call (580) 536-4040 to find our mobile unit’s locations and dates. We might be in your neighborhood!
Otherwise, you can schedule an appointment online or text us at (580) 875-7794. Let us know how we can help you. We’re here for you.